Having said that . . . If you don’t, you’re about to find out), poly relationships have all kinds of (sometimes incredibly arbitrary but also incredibly important) rules as you(probably) know (but
If a person regarding the guidelines is “My spouse does not want to know from or around my gf,” TWO, then your restaurant suggestions are likely to fall flat. Being poly means rules that are navigatingand quite often asking to renegotiate those guidelines) and juggling multiple individuals emotions, requirements, and issues. You need to show respect with regards to their guidelines, TWO, since they are each other’s primary partners. However your boyfriend and their wife need certainly to show respect for you too. Secondary if you might be, your requirements, issues, emotions, etc, need to be taken into account. If their rules cause you to feel disrespected, unvalued, or too low in the poly that is hierarchical pole, you ought to dump them.